FREQUENTLY ASKED (RELATIONSHIP) QUESTIONS II:
Q: I’ve been married for ten years with four female children now my husband is threatening and ready to marry another woman if I don’t give him a male child what do I do?
A: Talk to the person your husband respects so much, who’s not gender-biased and let him organize a meeting perhaps in his house with you, your hubby and family doctor.
Q: is church the best place to find one’s future partner?
A: It could be the best but ironically it could be the worst, it all depends on the PERSON not the PLACE though the place over time could transform the person.
Q: Why do men sometimes have mistresses who are far below their wives in social class, beauty, intellect and the like?
A: Variety (not necessarily the best or worst) is the spice of (sex) life for promiscuous and sexually adventurous men.
Q: I’m in a dilemma, he wants sex and threatens to leave should I continue to refuse him but I don’t want to lose him neither do I want to lose ‘her’ please help, I’m confused.
A: Action they say speak louder than words. In a nutshell, he values sex more than a future with you otherwise he won’t trade or threaten to mortgage your future union on the altar of sex. I think he sees you more as a mistress than the mother of his future children. You’re doing the right thing so don’t borrow the smell of cockroach to woo the Tasmanian devil (a notoriously stinking animal) – if you do you’ll discover in the long run that the Tasmanian devil desire fresh scent not foul smell.
Q: My elder sister is single at 35! For about seven years I couldn’t count the number of men that proposed marriage to her but unfortunately she was too proud and choosy to give anyone a chance now she wants any available man to marry but none seems to be interested in her, how do I help her, your advice is needed.
A: They say when the desirable isn’t available, the available becomes the desirable but unfortunately none is even available much less talk of ‘the desirable’ that’s the version of Karma afflicting your sister. Nonetheless, now that she’s swallowed some humility pills, as a caring sister, give her the dose of patience! Not every available man is her ‘Adam,’ her man will come when he will. Marriage is a very delicate yet crucial issue in life because it dictates not only the quality of our lives, quantity as well!
Q: I’ve a housemaid I’ve been sponsoring her education for the past five years but to my chagrin her step-mother came around and took offence for she told me categorically to stop her education otherwise she would take her away, your advice is sacrosanct!
A: Money motivates humans much more than most variables in life therefore enlighten her on the benefits of educating the poor girl to her family; in addition increase the girl’s salary 50 per cent (if you can afford it) on the condition that the girl continues with her education uninterrupted. This is likely to make her dance to your tune. Scientifically our planet is (almost) round, spiritually as well because the good and evil men do go (round) but usually come back. God will pay you back, I can assure you that!
Q: My wife used to be a great cook but now her food is no longer appealing (in fact, now appalling) yet my friends could miss their favourite premier league matches just to relish her meal, what’s wrong with me?
A: Much as I hate answering questions with questions, I’ll in your case! Are you still in love with her? What are the opinions of your children in this case? Do you’ve a mistress somewhere? If yes perhaps she’s spends the whole day grooming (not preparing) your meal in order to outwit your wife and win over your tummy as well? After all, they say the way to a man’s heart is through his tummy. Above all, search your heart, ‘tongue’ conscious and subconscious mind and try to fix the problem.
Q: I’m 29, I’ve been dating my rich boyfriend for the past five years but it appears he’s not ready for marriage so one of my friends advised me to trap him into marriage by deliberately getting pregnant for him, do you think this strategy will work in my favour?
A: Only cheap, insecure women use pregnancy as a bait to lure men into marriage and most times they live to regret it. Add value to all facets of your life, believe in not just yourself, your future as well and if it’s money that’s so enticing about him what stops you from making yours?
Olayemi J Ogunojo is a relationship cum life coach should you’ve issues in your relationships feel free to contact me.