Marriage as Neither Paradise nor Hell (II)

Your ‘next’ may not be the nest unless you ‘best’ your present with your presence. (image credit: social media)

Relieve your pains before your matriculation into the marriage institution otherwise the gains inherent will elude you. I see many singles who see marriage as escape route from their boredom more like running away from the troubles of life and running into marriage – the paradise.

But the same mind that experienced issues of life had not been formatted for marriage and so there’s ‘carryover effect’ yes luggage, baggage which becomes barricade to marital bliss and fulfillment. Continue reading Marriage as Neither Paradise nor Hell (II)

Marriage as Neither Paradise nor Hell.

Don’t clip your wings as single otherwise you won’t fly in marriage. ( pic credit: social media)

They say you can’t give what you don’t have and what you have is part of you and maybe you in some cases. I usually say the vegetable oil you’ve got in your kitchen is what you use in cooking.

You fry chicken, plantain, egg … with it, you prepare moin-moin with same, fried rice is on the menu and your pride is unruffled because you can bribe the bride with your oil and she cooperates with you and convert to fried version of rice. Continue reading Marriage as Neither Paradise nor Hell.

When Will Humanity Conquer Cancer?

Late Steve Jobs former Chairman, CEO and co-founder Apple Inc. (photo credit: Christophe Ena, AP)

There are different types of cancer – breast, brain, blood (leukemia) prostrate, lung … which makes the pandemic not only prevalent and widespread but egregiously evil; it’s no respecter of gender, race or socio-economic status, and humanity – anonymous and prominent people the world over had succumbed to the scourge.

Late Steve Jobs, Dora Akunyili, Gani Fawenhimi, Yinka Craig … and many more the world over encountered, fought with the monster but finally lost the battle … but only their lives were silenced their good deeds and sweet memories live on. Continue reading When Will Humanity Conquer Cancer?

Bedtime Café (Your Partner’s Patterns in Bed).

Romance buried 30 feet beneath the surface in many men, roar and erupt in bed when the menu is sex; same way the sleeping affection, snoring respect in women shout when salary screams – yes at month-end.

People have diverse bed-habits – many of which they are unconscious of which range from sleep-walking to sleep-talking, snoring and the like.  

Some people snore big time and a man or woman who has partner with such pattern may spend more time counting sheep than courting sleep but many times this doesn’t last, for in the long run they get accustomed to it and the snore may even turn to R&B sound that seduces your hearts, shut your eyes and send you to sleep island. Continue reading Bedtime Café (Your Partner’s Patterns in Bed).

Bedtime Café.

Sleep is life – yeah health and wellness. (credit: social media)

In all honesty I’m not a big client of sleep which makes her my creditor but because I know her wholesomeness I always try to make sure I subscribe and patronize her adequately and I’m improving, are you?

Sweet dreams and tender night’s rest to you all.

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Rationalization as Psychological Pain Reliever.

We take pain relievers to contain our physical pains and aches but we also take psychological pain relievers to contain our emotional stress and pains.

These psychological pain relievers are called ego defense mechanism in Psychology and they are many – sublimation, reaction formation, repression, projection, rationalization, displacement ….

Mr. Bill sacks his secretary, Jill no thanks to her low performance on the job and high performance at idle talk and office gossips. Continue reading Rationalization as Psychological Pain Reliever.

The Attitude of Counting Your Blessings.

‘Counting your blessings,’ starts with realizing your blessings. (image:

You’ve got many reasons to thank God but if you focus more on your challenges they will swallow your testimonies, exhaust your energy, engulf your bliss and future blessings, and turn you to an ingrate.

Interestingly ingrates don’t enjoy love and life. They want more and more but in life you can’t always have your ways – you get some, you lose some. Continue reading The Attitude of Counting Your Blessings.

Feedback in Intimacy.

Ghanaian media personality Belinda Addardey (aka Berla Mundi)

@ image above: when your wifey doubles as your mummy and gestures to you to come relish her meals … she’s done her part, yours is to show gratitude by sending 6-feet into your tummy.

Rejecting or not eating your wife’s meal is the biggest crime in love not punishable by law. Continue reading Feedback in Intimacy.

Type C Men

Romantic men cook once in a while for their partners but it could be the habit of Type C men and the motivation is money.

Type C: these men are lazy, have low self-esteem, shameless and opportunists of note who could become pickpockets, thieves et al, but the fact that fraudsters, criminals work and use their brains – negatively though, men in this class are not given to full-scale crime.

Crime is evil, inhumanity so please say no to it.

Idle hands, devil’s workshop! Since they are indolent they mutate to neighbourhood gossips, unemployed neighbourhood vigilante and may eventually become dependents on family, relatives, siblings maybe wife or on someone else. Continue reading Type C Men

Type B Men

Shopping adds fun and warmth to birthdays. Man. United forward Anthony Martial on a shopping spree with wife Samantha on her birthday.

Type B: these men are passionate about work but cherish family and family time. They work but are smart enough to maintain healthy (maybe near-healthy) balance between work and family.

They are available during the holidays, remember their loved-ones’ special days and celebrate same with them. They go on vacations with their families, have time for shopping, celebrate festive occasions with their loved-ones and are wonderful husbands and dads. Continue reading Type B Men