Toward a Safe Christmas.

Drive to arrive and stay alive. credit: social media

Christmas is here and we usually celebrate festive occasions with our loved ones – family, friends and relatives. And to fulfill this obligation we travel from our work stations, schools … to our various destinations which fill our roads, streets and highways with human and vehicular traffic.

Igbos in Nigeria especially in Lagos love to celebrate Christmas in their towns and villages in the East and so many leave Lagos for Anambra, Owerri, Abia, Enugu … and from there to their various country homes to enjoy rustic Christmas.

Events are celebrations and when they are religion-based like Christmas, Sallah, New Year … they become sensational. Continue reading Toward a Safe Christmas.

Start Right This Week.

God instituted the home as our internal and eternal support base as individuals. (credit: linkedin.com)

Monday is here, another beautiful, wonderful week is here so hug and kiss. Now know and note that the beauty of the week is anchored on your outlook and attitude.

Gratitude. Thank God for the gift of life.

Now have you set your goals for the week? If yes go ahead and document. Have the list on your phone or in print format and endeavour to access regularly.

As you traverse the week tick the ones you’ve achieved and target the remaining ones. Those little successes count you know. Continue reading Start Right This Week.

Versions of Sex.

A home filled with love and lovemaking is a blessed marriage. Bliss and peace peak in such homes. (pic source: shutterstock)

Rape is sex, so is lovemaking and conventional sex.

Rape is pains and pressure for one and pleasure for the other but it often baffles me how someone could source pleasure while simultaneously afflicting and inflicting physical and emotional pains on another, pains with potential to last a lifetime.

Conventional sex is the most common but lovemaking is usually sex in marriage and again sex where both parties receive and release pleasure. It’s sex at its height, give-and-take communication, team and selfless sports. Continue reading Versions of Sex.

Self-Fulfilling Prophesy in Relationships.

You’ve got to have some things in common in life to cherish your love much more. (credit: BellaNaija)

Self-fulfilling prophesy is the typical behaviour of a person that highlights as well as bring to reality the beliefs, stereotypes, ideology we hold in our minds of something, someone and events.

Now if you belief (stereotype) that all men are promiscuous and your hubby would someday become unfaithful, this cognition will click your conscious mind and cling to your subconscious thereby reducing your motivation and performance which is synonymous to reduction in the quantity and quality of sex you offer as well as the pleasure you release and receive. Continue reading Self-Fulfilling Prophesy in Relationships.

‘Mentoring Your Big Girl’.

Early puberty if not well managed may lead to teen pregnancy and the like. (credit: social media)

In our contemporary world girls of 11, 12, 13 … have bodies of ladies who are 19, 20 … these are big girls and a typical big girl has adult’s body but a child’s mind and because she’s immature she may not be skilled enough to handle men appropriately much less the trappings and consequences of romantic relationships.

Early onset of puberty births small big girls.

If an ideal man meets a lady whose face had not been touched by the artist called age he might be confused and to calm and settle the steaming water in his kettle  he looks at her garden (bosom) and if she’s got two small apples like African star apple (agbalumo) then she’s not yet a gbajumo (in this context too young to be dated) now if she’s got none at all then he concludes that she’s a minor and would probably let her be but interestingly if she’s a minor but has two major apples in her garden then there’s wahala and it’s wahala dey o for parents, if they don’t make hay while the sun shines. Continue reading ‘Mentoring Your Big Girl’.

Multifaceted Nature of Domestic Violence (II)

Women are also guilty of extramarital affairs but they are often triggered by one or more variables. (credit: social media)

Extramarital affairs by women many times are caused but it doesn’t have to be triggered for many men to embrace this because they see it as normal lifestyle for men.

If a man has mistresses his disillusioned wife may become verbally violent and her ballistic missiles are highway to domestic violence. Continue reading Multifaceted Nature of Domestic Violence (II)

The Multifaceted Nature of Domestic Violence.

Extramarital affair is an ally of domestic violence and to some it’s also violence. (Pic credit: social media)

I accessed on social media some days back where a Nigerian entertainment celeb was quoted from her social media … she had said economic and emotional abuse are also domestic violence and I saw the need to substantiate this argument.

Some people (maybe many) may not file these abuses into the category of domestic violence but in reality they are. In fact many phenomena that many may not see as domestic violence are – the menace is multifaceted you know. Continue reading The Multifaceted Nature of Domestic Violence.

Proactive vs Reactive

Sanitation is essential to individuals, families and communities. (social media)

Prevention they say is better than intervention therefore fight your challenges early enough and save lots of money and time.

Fighting mosquito is a proactive measure that prevents malaria but fighting malaria is reactive and so much more expensive.

If you’re down with malaria you spend more than falling and stopping mosquitoes, in addition you lose man-hours (which is equivalent to money). You spend more in the hospital and may God restore your health and preserve your life. Continue reading Proactive vs Reactive

‘Hills and Valley.’ (Female Version).

African actress Yvonne Okoro expressing self-love via selfie. (social media pic)

Not ‘Hills and valley’ but ‘hills or valley’. Yes such describes life because many phenomena don’t and many more can’t go together in life for instance you can’t be tall and diminutive, rich and poor, dark and fair … at the same time.

You can’t be a friend and an enemy but either a friend or an enemy in friend’s clothing – called frenemy.

Cleavage is the ‘valley’ between two hills (bust) of women and if you’ve got ample bust you automatically have calm cleavage and if you’ve got a cleavage massive enough to accommodate apple then your bust would be calm. Continue reading ‘Hills and Valley.’ (Female Version).

Victims of Domestic Violence (II).

Hands that embraced in love shouldn’t engage in violence. (social media)

Women are natural linguist and their mouths manufacture words ceaselessly and this usually give them an edge in misunderstandings in marriage. Though some men are skilled in the game as well but when a man receives too much insults that he could bear he could be tempted to revenge and that’s where the problems lies.

Usually men are the culprits of domestic violence and ideally women are guilty of same when they are violent to their domestic staff but often this category go unreported and ignored, probably because the injuries sustained may not be too pronounced or the helpless nature of the poor maid. But both versions are bad and evil! Continue reading Victims of Domestic Violence (II).