Self-Fulfilling Prophesy in Relationships.

You’ve got to have some things in common in life to cherish your love much more. (credit: BellaNaija)

Self-fulfilling prophesy is the typical behaviour of a person that highlights as well as bring to reality the beliefs, stereotypes, ideology we hold in our minds of something, someone and events.

Now if you belief (stereotype) that all men are promiscuous and your hubby would someday become unfaithful, this cognition will click your conscious mind and cling to your subconscious thereby reducing your motivation and performance which is synonymous to reduction in the quantity and quality of sex you offer as well as the pleasure you release and receive. Continue reading Self-Fulfilling Prophesy in Relationships.

‘Your Ex and Next Matter a lot’.

Actors, Nadia Buari and Jim Iyke. Good times shared as friends or lovers is like Christmas the memories come and go (credit: NaijaLoaded)

‘Your Ex and Next Matter a lot’ admonishes us on the need to thread the path of love with caution.

Don’t burn your ex; the fire could boil your ‘next’!

When a man and a woman meet and fall in love it’s not bad celebrating your love on social media if you both are convinced that it will add to your union.

However, if it never works out in the end, remember the good times you shared, your friendship and camaraderie and respect all that. 

Tearing yourself apart on social media will afflict your ex and affect your ‘next’ don’t premise your next relationship on permutations – “Would (s)he do the same thing to me if our relationship failed in the end?” Continue reading ‘Your Ex and Next Matter a lot’.

Waiting for Love.

Be available in life and love will surely find you. (credit: social media)

Getting a honest and serious man in love is difficult yet easy; however if you can wait for love, love will surely stop for you!

Waiting for love entails you to be available in life, accessible in love. Put on a smiling face, dress well, smell nice. It’s one thing to be beautiful, another to be attractive.

If  some women can propose love and even marriage to men in our contemporary world it shows being too tough and rough in love might soon expire and if you still embrace the ideology then be prepared to stay single but please enjoy same while it lasts. Continue reading Waiting for Love.

When Phobia and Expectations Combat in Love.

Men initiates love but fear to advance same until they feel safe and see their better-half in the woman. (credit: shutterstock)

An ideal man has phobia for intimate commitment because he believes that a better woman would appear someday, and making promises verbally and/or behaviourally to his current partner is a huge disservice to his perceived sweetheart and better-half who lives in Fantasy Island and keeps beeping his heart but is yet to appear and may never appear on earth.

In contrast a woman feels a bird at hand is worth two in the bush and she wants to avail herself of the opportunity at hand. All the while she was tormenting you, extending her ‘yes’ and expending your energy she’s already in dating-mode and when she finally says yes she feels you’re worth it.

Challenges as Interconnected Variables.

‘Bridget’ (in black) and ‘Beatrice’ (in white) were college friends. (pic credit: shutterstock)

Wayne was interested in the lady in white (Beatrice) but he came forward showing interest in the one in black (Bridget) and the latter began to interpret the character in the script handed to her by her  ancestors.

Bridget was emotionally aggressive, physically assertive and the more she played hard-to-get the more considerate Beatrice was to Wayne.

Since he was ‘interested’ in Bridget, Beatrice let down her guard and became friendly to Wayne. She was available and they became close friends meanwhile Bridget was waiting for Wayne not knowing that he’d found what (love) he initially set out to get. Continue reading Challenges as Interconnected Variables.

‘Meghan Markle on Royalty Highway.’


Royalty is first-class brand. Meghan Markle soon to become a full-fledged purple. (FameFlynet, Inc)

Actresses live in the heart of the public and Meghan being an American entertainer stays at ‘No 7 Hollywood Street, USA.’

To me ‘7’ is the celeb of numbers just as December is a celeb in the calendar months – what’s yours?

Entertainment and royalty are two different worlds and transiting from an actress to a princess is no child’s play! Ideally royalty will impact your philosophy, personality, attitudes, outlook … and adopting, adjusting and adapting demand detailed orientation. Continue reading ‘Meghan Markle on Royalty Highway.’

Life’s One Step at a Time (Love Mode).

Couple Harry-Meghan. (credit: Getty)

When a man meets a woman he likes he goes on ‘wooing’ mission to get the attention of the lady so they can start dating.

The mission was wooing, the vision, dating!

The mission called dating:

The mission is dating the vision courtship. You embark on dating to embrace courtship and one step at a time makes you make a success out of your dating but if you focus on marriage while dating thereby ignoring the next level (courtship) you may not experience engagement. Continue reading Life’s One Step at a Time (Love Mode).

‘Mentoring Your Big Girl’.

Early puberty if not well managed may lead to teen pregnancy and the like. (credit: social media)

In our contemporary world girls of 11, 12, 13 … have bodies of ladies who are 19, 20 … these are big girls and a typical big girl has adult’s body but a child’s mind and because she’s immature she may not be skilled enough to handle men appropriately much less the trappings and consequences of romantic relationships.

Early onset of puberty births small big girls.

If an ideal man meets a lady whose face had not been touched by the artist called age he might be confused and to calm and settle the steaming water in his kettle  he looks at her garden (bosom) and if she’s got two small apples like African star apple (agbalumo) then she’s not yet a gbajumo (in this context too young to be dated) now if she’s got none at all then he concludes that she’s a minor and would probably let her be but interestingly if she’s a minor but has two major apples in her garden then there’s wahala and it’s wahala dey o for parents, if they don’t make hay while the sun shines. Continue reading ‘Mentoring Your Big Girl’.

Multifaceted Nature of Domestic Violence (II)

Women are also guilty of extramarital affairs but they are often triggered by one or more variables. (credit: social media)

Extramarital affairs by women many times are caused but it doesn’t have to be triggered for many men to embrace this because they see it as normal lifestyle for men.

If a man has mistresses his disillusioned wife may become verbally violent and her ballistic missiles are highway to domestic violence. Continue reading Multifaceted Nature of Domestic Violence (II)